Positive Language

Shape your life; alter your thoughts and beliefs by using positive language. Each one of us has the potential to be as envisaged in this and subsequent life-times.  It is all about controlling electrons!


Let us understand what this means. All matter is made up of atoms, which in turn constitute molecules filled with protons, neutrons and electrons – for the sake of ease, this article will refer to atoms to mean all the constituent parts.  Every sensory experience that we have be it the smell of baking cake wafting past or the sight of a bus on the street are but sets of atoms that come together at a certain moment in time. If we like the smell or the sight of the bus, since we are waiting for it to arrive, we treat it as a good experience. The same smell would be bad if we were suffering from stomach cramps. The sight of the bus would be construed as bad if we were waiting on the wrong side of the road. Therefore, the same event would create a positive or negative feel depending on our own context.


So, let us break the experience up to understand what has just happened. The smell of the cake triggered a set of thoughts like, “Oh no, why did I eat that!” and increase the feeling of discomfort. The atoms of smell tickled the olfactory nerves that rushed to your brain and linked the smell with the resident information regarding cake smells. Once the smell atoms were identified, the memory cells kicked in and led to a chemical reaction that made you feel worse. Your experience of the whole chain of events was barely of a few seconds.


The brain is a complex mechanism that is teeming with atoms and innumerable neurons. The insides of the brain are designed to understand the world around us, identify what is good or bad in our surroundings and give us feelings and reactions. These feelings are what differentiate us from computers and calculators. We feel about the people around us, judge events, have perspectives on issues, justify, criticise, love, hate, feel jealous and greed and verbalise all these feelings. We state feelings, cover up feelings in the garb of words, lie and do all sorts of acrobatics with our feelings and words.


So we have learnt to communicate and all our thinking occurs in the language that we know. Language forms the basis of thought, emotion and communication. Mastery of language then defines the extent of the capacity to express thought.


Now let us see how positive language works in the wake of this knowledge about the brain and its strengths. The brain is a live information storage and retrieval system. Live because as new information is introduced, the brain considers the existing pathways to store the information. If these are not sufficient, it will create a new path. So, if you are trying to learn something new, the brain will support you in the endeavour. Let us say you have a tendency to procrastinate. The brain knows that when you decide to leave at 8:45 a.m., you will inevitably leave at 9:15 and adopt a set thinking-feeling pattern about the delay. You decide to change it and teach your brain that when you see the time as 8:45 a.m., you will leave. You plan your activities to support this intention. You will find that your brain quickly adapts itself to this changed pattern and supports this new activity set.


So, what is happening? You have taught your brain to support you in a new habit and it will adapt as you strengthen the synapses with practice. If you are alert to your actions; you will find that your attitude towards delay in various aspects of your life changing. The same process applies to getting your brain towards the habit of positive language. When a new task arises, your brain treats it as new information but you feel, ‘Aah! But I don’t know what to do,’ and sends you reeling into a state of fear or incompetence. Why? Your instinctive ‘I don’t know’ habit sends you into a cold sweat and blocks out the brain’s efforts in creating a new pathway and habit.


At such a time, breathe deeply and allow your brain to do its job and provide you the way ahead.


Research in neurology tells us that our brains tend to ‘map out’ a path for the information to flow that lay down the thought, action or emotional response to a stimulus. These pathways are important to correctly identify matter around us, avoid danger and know when the bus that we are waiting for has arrived. These paths are constant in the brain, but with the use of certain techniques it is possible to reprogram the pathways that lead us to self negating thought and behaviour.


Now let us conceive of a brain that has been trained to think that ‘nothing good happens’. A conscious way to change this would be to state ‘good things happen’. But the brain can do little with motherhood statements. The brain requires information that can be classified and applied. Motherhoods and pithy phrases get lodged into the motherhoods and pithy phrases cell and are referred to when you are in a situation that needs them. This is all part of the brain’s mechanism – taking these atoms of information and grouping them under different categories. The categorisation is based on individual perceptions.


The basis of NLP or Neurolinguistic Programming is about understanding how to redirect certain neurological pathways to achieve whatever outcomes you desire. All of this comes out of the E-S-A loop, where E is evaluate, S is state and A is action. This means that as soon as new information comes along, the brain evaluates it, determines the emotional state and drives action. If we allow our negative emotions to drown out this loop, we limit our scope of experience and prevent the growth of positive feeling. A good way to do this is to reiterate a positive phrase and wait a moment as the ideas start flowing in.


If all of this is making sense, let BreakState help you break your self-defeating patterns and allow you to experience life in its diversity. Start saying No to your emotional habits and start accepting new experiences by forming self-enriching habits.